Marriage Communication

As I am reading the article "Close relationships sometimes mask poor communication" written by Healthday, I have come to realize how true it is. I think no matter how much people try to get their point across to the opposite gender without being misread, it does'nt seem to work. Men hear thing different than women. I would relate this back to when we were children our parents would say "You have selective hearing!" I am glad that there was an actual test/study done on this and the finding were in fact true to my belief the whole time. Is is also funny that the men in the study thought his wife was making advances at him when she said she was hot. Now, on the other hand the "way" you say something can come off wrong if you say it with the slightest bit of slang or body gesture. It also has a lot to do with your tone of voice. People can easily miscommunicate just because of the way you said something or how loud you may have said it. It might be something as innocent as "WHAT IS THIS?" Now it looks just the way it sounded "loud and demanding" but maybe the miscommunication was brought out because it was loud. But the person on the other end of this question might be on the defensive and this may turn into an argument just over the way something is said. I look at it as if maybe the person said it as maybe the person who said it loud thought you were downstairs or in another room with the door closed and "yelled" the question ,not to be rude or demanding but to just ask a question no more no less. But to me this is how miscommunication starts and sometimes ends up in an unnecessary argument.

My husband and I always seem to miscommunicate because I AM that loud one in my house. I do not always mean to portray myself like that but it does happen more ofter then I would like to admit. That is something I would like to work on.

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